Embracing, not Accepting, who you are...

There are always the usual 'love yourself' 'self-esteem' notions out there.

Yeash, it is important to be have high self-esteem so as to not constantly feel insecure and defeated. Or the constant thoughts of needing to get that nose-job done or retail therapy to up that self-worth.

But, let's make it clear; to draw the distinct line between 'Embracing' yourself and 'Accepting' yourself.

The former is basically 'knowing who and what you are' . The latter on the other hand, is basically 'taking yourself as it is'.

Embracing yourself is the better of the two because it takes enough self-pride and esteem to know and acknowledge your strengths but at the same time, the courage to face up to your flaws. And because you love and respect yourself, you make the conscious effort to
better yourself. To constantly seek to have progression in who you are and what you are. You disallow self-destructive and socially destructive behaviors.

Such personalities know how to accept challenges and critisms with grace and dignity, and make positive steps in moulding themselves into a better person in the face of actually knowing, also, what their true pluses are.

Accepting yourself on the other hand fundamentally reeks insecurity and esteem issues. And it is definitely bad because although you acknowledge your good points, you're also taking your negative side as it is. Therefore, you generally do little in the name of making a positive change for the better. You think 'it's ok to be who I am'. Any change such a person experiences comes through influence and winds of change rather than any personal and genuine effort to seek out what's wrong and how to make right. Such personalities are seldom truthful to themselves simply because , suffice to say, truth hurts. They take it out on others because by accepting themselves and hence their flaws, they do not accept others opinions of them

Being head strong and strong willed is just different. And cos' you 'd know which trait belongs to which type.

Still unsure (or untruthful?) which category you fall into? Simple.

When was the last time you felt someone was zero-ing in on you? What was your reaction? To take the suggestions/critisms with humility or had a violent outburst?

If you reacted with maturity, grace and with level-headedness, you'd be an 'embracer'. If you rebutted with fiery temper and 'who da hell are you to tell me what to do' , then sadly, you're an 'accepter' of yourself.

And.... you'd be offended by this post already.

;-p